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If You Use Any of these "Nice Comments" You're Actually Just Rude


There’s a fine line between sarcasm and plain rudeness. There’s an equally fine line between well intended and just stupid. Which one do you fall in? That’s a tough answer…but for the sake of argument, let’s assume you mean well.

Still, how many times have you opened your fat mouth…only to be desperately looking for your foot to stick in there?

β€œYou Seem Happy” – You never know how someone is truly feeling, so you may need to find another way to put this. TherapistΒ Erica HornthalΒ says it’s about understanding your audience. "For people with mental illness orΒ high-functioning anxiety,” she explains. β€œThese phrases can feel invalidating and unsupportive."

β€œWell, That’s Amazing” – Unless whatever happened really was amazing? This will be subconsciously perceived as snotty. β€œIt's often a cover up for when we're either jealous or simply not listening,"Β Wayne PernellΒ offers. β€œInstead, respond by saying β€˜That's fantastic! Tell me more’.”

β€œYou Should’ve Reached Out” – Like someone needs to fee lousier? How about β€œPlease feel free to reach out to me in the future. I’m here for you” instead? This leaves an open door, especially if your friend is going through some things.

β€œThis is Better Than I Expected” – You’re ratting yourself out andΒ admittingΒ that you had low expectations from the jump…and that you’re surprised that things actually turned out well. BEWARE, you may get a few foul words thrown your way.

β€œYou’re So Cute” – This is something you tell your little brother when he’s trying to grow up on you, and you squeeze thoseΒ little cheeks.Β He’ll probably just shoo you away and go on about his business. Try saying this someone older, and it definitely won’t go over as smoothly. Unless the recipient is under 10…it’ll come off as patronizing.


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