A guy went to a party where he didn't know anyone. He started talking to another guy and they had such a great conversation that the other man approached the host afterward and said, "Wow, I really enjoyed talking to him! Best conversation I've had a in a long time!"
So the host asked the first guy later, "What did you do that made the conversation so great?"
"Well, I just listened and asked him questions. I didn't talk much at all, really."
So THAT'S what people want when they say they want good conversation.
The problem with that is that it's pretty much allowing the other person to talk on and on about what THEY want to, while you smile and ask questions.
That kinda sounds like it sucks. But wouldn't you love to talk to someone who just smiled, listened and asked questions? ME TOO!
Here's an excerpt from the article:
We as human beings are not particularly great at listening when we’re born. Babies come out of the womb knowing how to scream, not listen, and it takes quite a while for parents to teach their kids to listen, right? So if you’re bad at conversation—and you probably are—at least take comfort in knowing that it’s okay. Everybody has this problem.