It isn't easy coming up with the perfect things to say to a "match" on an online dating app . . . but there are a lot of WRONG things. (Like starting any sentence with, "Not to sound sexist, but . . .")
A new survey asked single people about the worst messages to send through dating apps . . . and here are the Top 10:
1. "Hey" or "Hi" . . . 78% of users say they don't like that. (Maybe because it's too basic, and forces the other person to start a conversation.)
2. "You up?" . . . 72%
3. "How are you?" . . . 65%
4. Cheesy pickup lines, like: "Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?" . . . 59%
5. "Hey beautiful" or "hey handsome" . . . 54%
6. Starting off with, "I usually never message first, but" . . . 48%
7. "What are you up to?" . . . 43%
8. "You free tonight?" . . . 41%
9. "You remind me of my ex" . . . 40%
10. "Tell me why we should date" . . . 39%
Some others that made the list include:
"You're the man (or woman) of my dreams."
"Why are you single?" Or, "How long have you been single?"
"You look like trouble."
"I bet you get a lot of messages."
"I'd treat you right"
And "we'd have beautiful children."
An expert says the keys are: Adding personality to your messages . . . sharing details about your life while asking a match about theirs . . . and being unique to stand out, both in the topics you talk about AND your tone.