Allison Kimmey's Instagram feed is filled with pictures of her at her happiest, rather than at her thinnest.
"After spending 15 years trying to achieve the perfect before-and-after photo, I was most alive right then, in that moment, being far heavier than I once was," said the mother-of-two.
The mom's message is that happiness is not, and will never be, associated with a number on a scale.
A few years and a handful of dress sizes ago I believed that the only way to be happy was to be as thin. I held onto the belief that I wasn't good enough just as I was because it protected me from seeing just how worthy and unstoppable I really was. Because I knew that if I really let myself be who I really was that I would be seen, and heard, and judged, and loved, and hated. And in my mind, the fear always won over the freedom. Most of the time we stay stuck for fear of what we'll have to go through as we grow. That the safer place is to stay right where we are, after all we already know how to endure that. But every time we stay, we are experiencing pain far greater than what we would endure to break out of that comfort zone and experience life free from the expectations of others and lack-based mentality. I promise you, staying where you are is hurting you so much more than anyone's opinion of you ever could. None of us can predict how long we have on this earth, hell I might only have until tomorrow...but it doesn't matter because I live my life for NOW not for if's and when's. Double tap if you believe that life is too short to put conditions on when you're allowed to start living! Just do you babes! Xoxo Allie
I remember the evening vividly that I posted that photo in the purple strapless top. I said "For the first time ever, I feel like a MILF" That's what I said. I looked at my photos and I knew in my mind I looked great. I had lost all the baby weight and got my pre-baby body "back". And yet, I didn't FEEL confident. And you can literally see it in my eyes, my smile, my posture. I look like I'm holding back. And I was. I told everyone I felt like I was bangin. But inside I was still the hot mess express. I still determined my worth based on WHO ELSE thought I was attractive. I still based my success on the markers that society placed for me. And yet, even achieving those milestones, and standing there saying I was "fuckable" didn't make me feel any more LOVED. And I continued this path for a while, about another year. It was destructive. Painful. And really fucking HARD. On everyone. And I began to realize that I was not being the example I wanted for my children. The last thing I wanted was for them to need to be validated by others to know their worth and potential. I wanted them to know it and believe it with such conviction that NO ONE could tell them otherwise. But how could I teach that if every time someone gave me "advice" I was ready to change myself to fit in? Well the simple answer is - I couldn't. And so I started pushing myself to question why I cared if people liked me, or found me attractive, or wanted to be my friend. And I started focusing on the things that felt right, and good, and easy, and purposeful. And when things got scary, I got scary honest with myself. And I continued to grow into my true soul, little by little. I failed forward SO HARD. I STILL do! And if you want to make a change in any area of your life, you will too. You've spent your entire life believing the lies that society has embedded in you, it will take time...a lot of time, to unlearn that behavior and step into the women you've always been. She's waiting for you, babe....we all are. Just do you Xoxo Allie
👏🏻The pounds come and go. The minutes don't.👏🏻 I chose to stop wasting my life believing that it couldn't start until I had the perfect body and start believing that I am worthy of joy, love, opportunity and respect right now...and every day for that matter. And so are you. Double tap if you are going to start believing it too! ❤️ Just do you babes! Xoxo Allie _________ #bopo #bodypositive #bodypos #bodylove #bodyimage #bikinibody #transformationtuesday #everybodyisbeautiful #selflove #effyourbeautystandards #worthy