The Best Time To Move In With Your S.O., According To A Couples Therapist


The decision to move in with your significant other depends on more than how long you've been together. Couples therapists recommend basing your decision on the following criteria before signing a new lease:

1. When you've been together for at least one year. "This gives couples enough time to cycle through most of life's daily struggles that could reveal challenges in the relationship," says New York-based family psychologist Susan Bartell, Ph.D.

2. When you know each other really well. Knowing your partner’s quirks, how they are about cleanliness, how they are with their friends and family, and knowing whether you can live with these things will help you make an informed decision, according to Ben Michaelis, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and author of Your Next Big Thing.

3. When there aren't outside factors swaying your decision-making. Marriage therapist Caroline Madden says, “One of the biggest mistakes that couples make is to move in for financial reasons.” Wait until you're ready to build a future together.

4. When you're on the same page about your future. When you both have the same goals, values and intentions for your relationship-- that’s the best time to move in together, marriage and family therapist Marni Feuerman says.

When you're legitimately ready. You should decide to move in together when it makes you happy. Living together is a great way to decide if this is the right partner for you, explains couples therapist Charlotte Howard. You won't know how compatible you are until you share a living space.

Source: Women's Health; photo: Getty Images