It happens to everyone, it can be both a good thing or a bad thing but either way, what does the sex dream actually mean?
Sex With A Co-Worker
Things might be a bit awkward in the office lounge the next day, but surprisingly, sex dreams that involve a co-worker are pretty common, says dream expert Lauri Loewenberg, author of Dream on It, Unlock Your Dreams Change Your Life. "If you already have the hots for this particular co-worker, well . . . a cigar's just a cigar, and you are safely exploring the possibilities," she told POPSUGAR. "But if this is someone you wouldn't touch with a 10-foot pole, fear not. Your naughty dream is either because you recently connected with that co-worker on some level or there is something about the co-worker you need to incorporate into yourself," says Loewenberg.
Sex With An Ex
Don't freak out or call your ex to rekindle things. It's just a dream, and there's a reason you had it, unrelated to your ex. "Was he your first love? Strangely enough, we continue to dream about our first loves, even if we've moved on into a happy marriage. Don't worry — it's not that you want him back; it's that you want what he represents back: excitement, bubbles, passion! You are likely to get these dreams when your marriage gets a little too routine and humdrum, as all marriages do from time to time," says Loewenberg.
Here's what's going on. "Your dream is using your ex to remind you of the passion that is still alive inside of you! These dreams are actually good for you and are alerting you to the fact that the passion department doesn't want to become a thing of the past. Might be a good idea to get thyself down to Victoria's Secret and buy something red and lacy," she says.
Sex With Your Boss
"In the case of your boss, it is most likely power, authority, management skills, decision making, etc. that you need to merge into your own life," says Loewenberg. "Do you need to take on the role of boss at home and better manage those unruly kids? Are you facing a tough decision? Do you need to fire or get rid of a certain element, person, or behavior in your life? Or perhaps you simply need to merge with your boss psychologically in order to deal with a client or project," she says. These are the questions to ask yourself now. The message of the boss dream is: time to take charge! Being decisive and authoritative would suit you well now.
Sex With A Stranger
"I call this the 'mystery lover dream,' and it is the most common of all sex dreams. Many of us wonder if this dream is actually a glimpse of our soulmate who might be out there somewhere waiting for us. Alas, it is not so. But what is so is that the unknown, faceless man or woman that often appears in our dreams does indeed hold significance," Loewenberg says.
Our dreams have a cool way of showing us different parts of our personality in the form of a person, so we can gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and what makes us tick.
Your Partner Is Cheating On You
First off, remember, it's just a dream. Your partner is not actually cheating on you. "These dreams can be infuriating, worrisome, and the cause of many a slap across the face first thing in the morning! As upsetting as these dreams can be, the good news is that they rarely indicate that your mate is getting pleasure elsewhere. They do suggest, however, that something (rather than someone) is taking the time and attention from your mate that you feel you deserve," says Loewenberg. Something is beginning to feel like a third wheel in the relationship, like work, golf, or fantasy football. Once you pinpoint what that is, it's time to compromise. "Offer to give up or cut back on something your mate isn't a big fan of if he or she promises to cut back on the activity that is causing you to feel left out. If you both stick to the compromise, you'll find that the dreams will stop," she says.
Sex With A Celebrity
No matter which celebrity makes a naughty cameo in your dream production, you can be certain your dreaming mind chose him or her for a very good reason. The best way to figure out why a celebrity is co-starring with you in your dream is to ask yourself what it is that that celebrity is best known for.
"Is it a character they have played on TV or in the movies? Can you relate that character or show to your life right now? Is it a song? If so, does the title or the lyrics speak to you right now? Whether you are a fan or not, there is something about that celebrity that your inner mind connects with and it uses that celebrity to convey a message to you, about you, so that you can continue to shine," says Loewenberg.